I recently heard from a wife who had noticed a lot of phone numbers on her husband’s call log. She also saw and heard him making a lot of cell phone calls to various women. She said she knew he was talking to women because she could tell by the tone of his voice that he was not talking to a man. When she asked him who he was talking to and what he needed to discuss, he would only say that he was talking to friends and coworkers and that she was overreacting.
Of course, the more she asked him about these phone calls, the more defensive and secretive he got and the more and more he was trying to have these conversations in private. The wife wanted to know if she should be worried about this. She said, in part: “I know that he’s calling and talking to a lot of women. But what I don’t know is who they are and if I should be worried about this. I guess the real question is if all these calls mean he’s cheating on me.” I will try to address these question in the following article.
Is Your Husband Just Friendly Or Is He Overly Friendly Because He’s Cheating?: This is not an uncommon situation. And often, the husband will tell you that he just has a lot of friends and that some of them happen to be women. He might also insinuate that you’re being too possessive and insecure. And, since he’s not offering you any information, you have to choose between trusting that he’s only having innocent conversations or digging a little deeper and seeing if he’s telling you the truth.
Yes, some husbands have a lot of friends and they’re just social people who enjoy lots of conversation. But, most people know that there is a fine line between friendly and inappropriate. Sometimes, you have to figure out which you are dealing with. And, if his conversations bother you, then that’s valid enough of a reason for you to find a resolution. It doesn’t make sense to sit back and worry when you could speak up or find out the truth.
Figuring Out His True Relationship With The That Women He’s Calling: The wife was concerned about her husband calling all of these women. But, at the core of this was her larger concern that he was cheating on her. One way to figure this out is to determine who he was talking to and then figure out the nature of the calls. In some cases, she will probably recognize some phone numbers on the call log. Some of them will probably be innocent calls to family or mutual friends.
But, some might be unknown numbers that could lead to unknown people and unknown conversations. And this is where you’ll sometimes have to do a little additional digging to either confirm or deny your suspicions if you are not satisfied with his explanations. There are ways to find out who he’s talking to and what he’s saying, but it’s usually preferable to go the honest open and route first if this is at all possible.
I was in this same situation a short time ago. My heart knew that he was cheating, but my head didn’t want to acknowledge it. I told myself that I was just seeing things that weren’t there. But deep down, I knew I was kidding myself. After thinking on it for a long time, I decided that I really wanted to know the truth, no matter what that truth was. I learned how to get concrete information and proof that my husband thought that he had hid and erased. And I found exactly what I feared. You can read a very personal story at http://catch-the-cheating.com/